StoryCorp here I come!!
Today I will be interviewing in the mobil storybooth StoryCorp.
Actually this was back in Aug. 2005 I just changed my blog to a new name.
http://storycorps.net/
I'm so excited. I want to make sure I hit every point I need to. The following is the notes I've made. Wish me luck and I hope one day this will help someone some where...
* I’m here to tell the world what I think they don’t know about adoption.
* I believe if the world could know what I know about adoption this world could be a
better place.
* The answer to the healthiest way of adoption is to just LOVE.
* Leaving all negative feelings of selfishness, greediness, jealousy actions like
narrow mindedness, self interested, thoughtlessness and being only self-interested
behind you. To do what is best for this child is what works.
* Then the best will happen to all parties involved.
* I know because I have lived it and seen both sides.
1. How has adoption been a part of your life?
• being adopted
• placing charity with a fabulous family
2. What is closed adoption?
• forged birth certificates
• legalized theft of this child’s birthright
• How people think adoption will work?
• They will never know?
• If you don’t talk about it, then it will go away.
• “you were chosen”…. “I wasn’t wanted first”
• Age 18 being some kind of magic age. That’s what most people think but that’s
not how it is.
3. What is open adoption?
• The truth is told from the beginning.
• You don’t have to be sat down and told “you’re a girl”
• Child has an avenue to say “why” or “who do I look or act like”
4. What was my closed adoption like?
• Ashamed of looking different.
• 4th grade babysitting thing (Pinky)
• 6th grade “I’m your by law, on paper”
• Family tree homework, filling out nationalities on annual test or any kind of
paperwork.
• Finding out that I’m Arabic at 16.
• What I felt about adoption
5. Getting pregnant at 16.
• Going to jail and Mountain View girls home.
• Talking about adoption to me.
6. What changed?
• Senior pictures
• List of what anyone would need to be to parent this baby, the only thing I
knew to be my own bone and blood
• Finding this family
• Delivering this baby and meeting these fabulous people.
7. We Are Family. I didn’t give my baby up.
• Christmas when she was 3 months old
• Nothing but love.
• She’s 14 now
8. What was different?
• We all love each other.
• We don’t fight for her love or feel jealous of each other.
• We only want for her not ourselves.
9. The thoughts we need to focus on in order to make adoption work for everyone.
• This is for the child..ONLY.
• This is not to satisfy your need to have a child
• You can not change that this child came from different blood which makes
their ways and personality different than what you may understand.
• It is only beneficial to all parties if everyone knows and loves one another
if they cannot love one another and put their feeling aside then it will not
work.
10. How does the government need to change in order for this to work?
• Closed adoption is a crime.
• Theft of that child’s birthright to know their own heritage and past
• Forged documents so that this child may not be able to know the truth of
their past.
• Creating a child and saying they can never contact you is just as much a
crime as leaving a child in a garbage.
11. What needs to change in our process of thinking?
• If you create a child it is your responsibility to make sure the best thing
happens to that child.
• If you adopt a child you can not try and create a new being you have to know
and understand that this child came from other bone and blood and that is
just as important to this child as you are being the parent that is right
there.
• We adopt children because we want to help some children in this world that’s
biological parents are not able to give them the life you are.
So the taping of this was wonderful and if anyone out there would like to hear my story I would love to send the audio to you. I was high on cloud 9 after doing this because I know now if I die tomorrow I did something that my story really is out there for ever!!
Actually this was back in Aug. 2005 I just changed my blog to a new name.
http://storycorps.net/
I'm so excited. I want to make sure I hit every point I need to. The following is the notes I've made. Wish me luck and I hope one day this will help someone some where...
* I’m here to tell the world what I think they don’t know about adoption.
* I believe if the world could know what I know about adoption this world could be a
better place.
* The answer to the healthiest way of adoption is to just LOVE.
* Leaving all negative feelings of selfishness, greediness, jealousy actions like
narrow mindedness, self interested, thoughtlessness and being only self-interested
behind you. To do what is best for this child is what works.
* Then the best will happen to all parties involved.
* I know because I have lived it and seen both sides.
1. How has adoption been a part of your life?
• being adopted
• placing charity with a fabulous family
2. What is closed adoption?
• forged birth certificates
• legalized theft of this child’s birthright
• How people think adoption will work?
• They will never know?
• If you don’t talk about it, then it will go away.
• “you were chosen”…. “I wasn’t wanted first”
• Age 18 being some kind of magic age. That’s what most people think but that’s
not how it is.
3. What is open adoption?
• The truth is told from the beginning.
• You don’t have to be sat down and told “you’re a girl”
• Child has an avenue to say “why” or “who do I look or act like”
4. What was my closed adoption like?
• Ashamed of looking different.
• 4th grade babysitting thing (Pinky)
• 6th grade “I’m your by law, on paper”
• Family tree homework, filling out nationalities on annual test or any kind of
paperwork.
• Finding out that I’m Arabic at 16.
• What I felt about adoption
5. Getting pregnant at 16.
• Going to jail and Mountain View girls home.
• Talking about adoption to me.
6. What changed?
• Senior pictures
• List of what anyone would need to be to parent this baby, the only thing I
knew to be my own bone and blood
• Finding this family
• Delivering this baby and meeting these fabulous people.
7. We Are Family. I didn’t give my baby up.
• Christmas when she was 3 months old
• Nothing but love.
• She’s 14 now
8. What was different?
• We all love each other.
• We don’t fight for her love or feel jealous of each other.
• We only want for her not ourselves.
9. The thoughts we need to focus on in order to make adoption work for everyone.
• This is for the child..ONLY.
• This is not to satisfy your need to have a child
• You can not change that this child came from different blood which makes
their ways and personality different than what you may understand.
• It is only beneficial to all parties if everyone knows and loves one another
if they cannot love one another and put their feeling aside then it will not
work.
10. How does the government need to change in order for this to work?
• Closed adoption is a crime.
• Theft of that child’s birthright to know their own heritage and past
• Forged documents so that this child may not be able to know the truth of
their past.
• Creating a child and saying they can never contact you is just as much a
crime as leaving a child in a garbage.
11. What needs to change in our process of thinking?
• If you create a child it is your responsibility to make sure the best thing
happens to that child.
• If you adopt a child you can not try and create a new being you have to know
and understand that this child came from other bone and blood and that is
just as important to this child as you are being the parent that is right
there.
• We adopt children because we want to help some children in this world that’s
biological parents are not able to give them the life you are.
So the taping of this was wonderful and if anyone out there would like to hear my story I would love to send the audio to you. I was high on cloud 9 after doing this because I know now if I die tomorrow I did something that my story really is out there for ever!!
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